Flashback: Pre-’99
Finally, a rare night out. My parents actually said yes, and I was determined to make every second count.
I had to get there before 9 PM because door fees kicked in after that, and my high school budget only covered a cheap burger with friends before heading to the venue – Hard Rock Cafe in Glorietta 4.
Dancing was the highlight, the mission, the vision, the whole reason for being here. We sat there watching for the signals: the lights dimming, the quiet nods between staff, and tables being cleared away to make room for the floor. We knew what was coming.
The music started, a head-bopping, foot-tapping beat. It was enough to get people swaying, but everyone was still too shy to really go for it. The warm-up was fine, but I was on a clock.
My negotiation with my dad earlier that day had been a high-stakes gamble:
Papa : Ano oras ka uuwi?
Me : 12.
Papa : Ok. Sunduin kita ng 10:00.
Me : Pwede 11?
He gives me that look – the one that warns that i might be risking my small window of freedom by pushing my luck.
Still, I tried to negotiate an extension.
“Papa, pwede mga 10:45?”
He was already looking at something else, and I took his distracted “OK” as a win.
Now, back to this moment. Why was no one dancing?
I could feel it. Everyone was waiting for someone to make the first move. The dance floor sat there, wide open, daring someone to step into its empty space. I could see everyone’s limbs twitching, itching to move, but nobody wanted to be first. It was calling out for me, loud and clear.
I checked the time, it was almost 9:30. Part of my agreement with my parents was that i will be sticking to their terms – so i had to make sure i knew how much time i had left. Luckily, there were some analog landlines available, located near the rest rooms. I dialed our home number, and heard my dad’s voice on the other end.
Me : (shouting over the loud music) PAPA! PWEDE 11:00, PLEASE?
Papa : What? It’s so loud i can’t hear you. Paalis na ako ng bahay. Be there in 30 minutes!
Me : NOOOOOO! WAAG MUNA!!! Pa, wait! Hello? Hello? HELLOOOO?
He hung up. I put back the phone on the receiver, a short queue had formed behind me. I have about 30 minutes left to unleash a week’s worth of unspent dance moves. And every minute wasted on hesitation was a minute stolen from me.
I scanned the crowd for anybody who looked like they could get the party started, but they all stayed in the shadows. Someone had to be the sacrifice. I hoped someone from our group would lead, but instead, they turned to me, “Ikaw na, GO!” with a playful push.
Maybe they meant it as a joke. Maybe they didn’t expect me to take it seriously. But I had a curfew. I had a mission. If I wanted to be shy and self-conscious, I could do that at home.
So I went for it. I broke for the center of the floor like a shaken soda bottle finally being uncapped. I wish I could say I danced like Jessica Alba in Honey, but it was probably closer to Napoleon Dynamite.

Within seconds, the dance floor was packed.
Maybe I looked ridiculous (I’m sure I did. but so what?). Still, I had fun, and that’s the only thing I choose to remember. No social media back then meant no proof, no judgment — just pure, unfiltered (and often undocumented) joy.
I left the dance floor, sweaty and satisfied, my feet aching from the glorious chaos. I knew my time was up. My dad was waiting for me outside. and i had to make a run for it. The real world pulling me back, but I had done what I came to do.
I had my dose of dancing, moving, and grooving. And I had my fill. Not a speck of regret.
There would be many more dances after that night, but that one remains my favorite story — because, for once, I felt like a badass.
The sacrificial tribute to the dancefloor gods.



Very relatable.. I’m positive a lot of of women can relate to the tense moment of asking for permission to attend a party.. of trying your best to push your curfew…. So real so typical
So relatable .. it takes a whole lot of guts and courage to have done what you did .. to let go and enjoy ..we need more of hear more about these stories .. from
Real
Women